How to Avoid Being A Bridezilla

Bridezilla – /brʌɪdˈzɪlə/
noun – a woman whose behaviour in planning the details of her wedding is regarded as obsessive or intolerably demanding.
Some of us have been accused of it, some of us admit to it, others have been on the receiving end of it, and it is something that we all have encountered. To bare witness to the wrath induced by a condition that plagues many women who are organising their big day is never a pretty sight.
With the overwhelming ‘to-do’ list, the hubby not helping out as much as he should and things not always unfolding the way in which we dreamt, it’s no wonder why so many brides-to-be take on this beast-like persona. However, this day is special, and we can’t  forget, it is all about the journey of it all, so organising this momentous day is just as memorable as the big day itself. Because of this, we are here to help assist keep your nuptial planning mood swings at bay.
Here are The Clarence House tips on How To Avoid your Bridezilla tendencies:
    1. Listen & Appreciate
      When people close to you want to help you out with your wedding plans, let them! So many bride’s don’t appreciate what so many people try to do for them and their plans. Even if you don’t agree with their choice of floral arrangements, there’s no need to be a bossy diva. Just keep in mind that their intentions are good and that they only mean well. So appreciate that they are taking an interest in your wedding day and don’t get annoyed when someone suggests something to you that isn’t exactly your thing. You will come across as being gracious under pressure and at the end of the day you don’t have to take any of it on board if you don’t want to. However, every now and then you will find a little gem amongst all the suggestions that will help you in your planning.
    1. Stick to Your Budget
      Every bride wants their day to be perfect, but at what cost? Before you plan any details, you and your fiance should sit down and create a budget for your wedding, and be realistic. Don’t be tight, but don’t spend more than what you are willing to. Once you have allocated the funds that you can afford for the wedding, stick to it. Many Bridezilla’s tend to observe a detail in a magazine that they really want to be a part of their wedding day, and don’t realise these are sometime celebrity weddings. They know that they can’t afford it, however their stubborn ways and  the common excuse that this is their one day gets the better of them. The last thing you want to do is start your married life in debt. Know your depths and stick to them!
    1. Don’t crash diet
      We all want to be in the best shape of our lives when we walk down that aisle, however, giving your body plenty of time to get to where you want it to be is very important. Crash dieting and extreme eating regimes can leave you with low-blood sugar levels, low energy levels and can effect your hormone levels too. All of this can contribute to a moody bride-to-be. Loosing the weight gradually and in a healthy manner is best. For females, no more than 250 – 500 grams per week is ideal.
    1. Don’t be an attention seeker
      It’s only natural that you’re excited about your big day, however you may be at another stage of your life than some of the people that you bump into. So unless you know that they are genuinely interested in your big day or you regard them as a close friend, there is no need to talk on and on about every little detail that you plan for your wedding. Just mention a few important things when they ask how your wedding planning is going and that will suffice. Move on to another topic, we’re sure they too have exciting things going on in their lives, so be sure to ask them about what’s going on with them.
    1. Neglecting your fiance
      Many people will say that it’s your day, but it is as much about the groom as it is about the bride. This day is about the both of you coming together as one, and that is the whole purpose of what your marriage should signify. So don’t forget him in the plans that he wants to be involved in! Try not to be a controlling bride-to-be who wants to organise every facet by herself. Be sure to get his opinion on things, show him that you value his input, and hell, he may even have an amazing idea that you never thought of. Remember, it’s about the both of you.
    1. Hire a  venue with experience & one with a wedding co-ordinator in the package is a bonus
      Booking with a wedding venue that has a dedicated wedding co-ordinator can make a world of difference. It can make your planning life easier and they can also offer their expert advice to add value & charisma to your wedding. This is a professional who organises weddings for a living, so make sure you find a venue who understands your vision, shares the same goals for your wedding as you and one that truly has your best intentions at the centre of all plans and decisions made in regards to your big day.

Additional tips to keep the beast at bay (and the Japanese safe)

    • Give permission to your bridesmaids or fiance to call you out when being a Bridezilla.
    • Enjoy the experience of planning a wedding. Just like your wedding day, it only happens once, so love every minute of it
    • Take deep breaths & count to 10 when your feeling stressed (it actually helps)

The Clarence House has over 35 years of experience in organising breath-taking weddings. Let our team and dedicated wedding co-ordinator help you organise your special day. We have extraordinary people, an opulently appointed venue, attentive staff and have been keeping weddings Bridezilla-free for decades. We produce weddings that are exactly as planned.

 

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